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How to Think More About Sex

How to Think More About Sex

By Alain de Botton & The School

Picador, 2012.

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19 mins read

17 Key insights

A brief summary of How to Think More About Sex

A rigorous, thoroughly researched exploration of why the topic of sex is so taboo and what married couples—as well as the young and the single—can do to reset their attitudes toward sexual desire.

Key insights in How to Think More About Sex

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What do you get from this book? Adopt a philosophical approach to sex and explore desires in a healthy way
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Traditional ideas about sex continue to stunt our capacity to experience profound physical pleasure
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Sex is a fundamental human impulse that satisfies innate biological and emotional needs
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Growing up and developing sexually can result in a sense of loneliness and physical isolation
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Though intimacy helps us feel connected and accepted, we often have to risk rejection to get there
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Our relationship to sex creates a window into our psychological histories and innermost desires
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Men and women may not have as much say as they think they do when choosing a sexual partner
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The sooner we accept that we are all fetishists, the sooner we can embrace “the good” in our sexual desires
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Being in a long-term relationship doesn’t mean couples won’t have awkward bedroom encounters
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Pornography doesn’t have to be a drain on society; rather, it could be more artistic and portray real beauty
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There are many reasons for infidelity, but most can be traced back to the institution of marriage
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Expressing sincere gratitude to a committed spouse is the first step towards achieving a more realistic long-term relationship
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It’s important to make an effort to have more open and honest conversations about sex
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If you stop viewing love as more virtuous than sex, you can find a partner with similar values and preferences
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Selected critiques in brief
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Final word

Who should read How to Think More About Sex

Fans of Freud • psychologists and psychiatrists • couples counselors • anyone uncomfortable with the topic of sex • heavy porn users or would-be adulterers

About the author of How to Think More About Sex

Swiss-born British philosopher Alain de Botton is the founder of The School of Life, an organization dedicated to helping people build resilience and make connections via everyday topics that few individuals actively think about, such as work and relationships. His essay-style pieces and books, which include How Proust Can Change Your Life, have been published in over thirty languages.

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